At the start of any new relationship there is a blissful, fairy tale style, honeymoon phase. You want to spend every waking moment together and be as close as physically and emotionally possible. That’s great, and if you’re with the right person, your family and friends should be more than happy for you.
Once the honeymoon period comes to an end though, you might need to re-evaluate how you’re spending your time. There are a few warning signs that you should really pay attention to and if you think these situations sound like you, you might want to cut the time you’re spending with your partner a little bit.
1. Your friends consider you and your partner as one person.
Whenever you’re invited out, by your friends and family, you’re invited as a couple rather than as an individual person. If you can’t remember the last time you were invited out by yourself, it’s time to reevaluate. It’s always great that your loved ones accept your relationship and are happy to spend time with both of you but you need to have time of your own too.
2. You have nothing to do when they’re not around.
Your partner heads out to do something on their own, be it grocery shopping or grabbing a drink with a friend, and you feel lost. You find yourself checking your phone constantly and waiting for a message from them. If this is you, STOP. You need to get out on your own or with a friend, you cannot have your life revolving around one person’s movements, it will drive you crazy! You’ve got to remember here that absence really does make the heart grow stronger.
3. Your best friend is acting distant.
If you and your best friend are acting different around each other, if you find that they don’t reach out like they used to then you know things need to change. You’ve probably blown them off more times than you even realize and you need to fix things or you risk losing them completely. You need to be fair about how your are dividing your time, and sometimes you need to sacrifice hanging out with your partner to help out a friend.
4. You find everything about each other irritating.
Well, this one goes without having to say much. If your partner’s breathing or chewing drives you crazy, you need some space. There is no doubt about it. You should try to find separate outlets for yourselves. You need to appreciate the time you spend together and if you spend it with no one else, you will take it for granted!
In all, if you feel like you’re spending too much time with your partner then you probably are. You should take a step back and pay attention to whether you’re neglecting others around you and focusing all of your time and energy to just one place. Spending all of your time with one person is simply not healthy and if you need to take a step back, don’t feel guilty about it, you should look after yourself!