Marriage can be difficult – we all know that. But it’s also super awesome. Marriage means that you’ll never be alone, that you’ve found the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, and that you have a best friend forever.
Nevertheless, it’s hard to truly be prepared for marriage. What has no one ever told you to expect after getting married?
When you’re in the relationship that you’re meant to be in, nothing is going to change once you walk down the aisle. You really should only be changing your name, and whether you check “Married” on forms.
When you marry someone, you’re not just marrying them. You’re also marrying their mom, their dad, their brothers and sisters and their extended family too. Now those people are your family. Accept them for who they are, and try your best to get along.
Just because you’re married now doesn’t mean that you have to be with your spouse 24/7. In fact, that’s actually unhealthy for a relationship. Make sure you still take time for yourself, whether it’s just hanging out at the bookstore alone or planning a girls or guys night out. Spending some time alone without your partner will make the time you do spend together even sweeter.
Couples who believe that they can’t go to bed angry often end up fighting all night, and it just gets worse and worse with no resolution in sight. Instead of putting you – and your spouse – through that, just go ahead and go to bed upset. Both of your heads will be clearer in the morning and you’ll be able to come back to the matter at hand with a refreshed perspective.
It may not sound very romantic, but it’s even less romantic to let life take away your sexual relationship with your spouse. So don’t be afraid to pencil it in every once in awhile.
Yes, you’ll have to go to the bathroom with them around, pass gas, and even vomit in front of them a time or two. It’s cool – we’re all human and your spouse won’t love you any less for it.
Marriage is different for each couple, and part of the fun is finding your groove together. Living with another human all the time (and having a relationship with them) can be tough, but it’s so worth it.
Marriage is rewarding in a way that no other relationship can be, because its something that’s designed to be the last relationship you ever have – and the last relationship you’ll ever need. When you love your partner as you love yourself, it can truly enrich your life beyond anything you ever expected or hoped for.