10 Questions You Should be Asking Yourself About Your Relationship

If you’ve hit a crossroads in your relationship, it can be difficult to get the advice that you need. Your girlfriends will want the best for you and they will want you to be with someone who treats you like the princess that you are. Because of this, they are going to give you a black and white option: Love Him, or Leave Him. But not all scenarios work out this way. Sometimes, things can be shrouded in gray areas and difficult to assess when you’re involved in them directly. If the time has come to asses and you’re looking to get yourself some honest advice about where this relationship is going (or not going), then you should take the time to ask yourself the following ten questions…

10. Are you your best self with him?

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We all wear different masks and the ones we choose to put on depend upon our current situation, company, and mood. Is this man someone who brings out the best in you? Does he encourage you to be the kind of person you love in the world? Does his presence illicit from you your best qualities? If no, then you’ve got some deeper probing to do…

9. Are you secure with him?

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While physical safety is one thing, think about your emotional security as well. Does this person make you feel like you can discuss the important things that are on your mind, even if they’re tough to talk about? Does he support you in your dreams and ambitions? Security of all kinds are vital to a healthy relationship.

8. Is there mutual respect?

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A good relationship can only be built upon a sense of mutual respect. You need to ensure that this is someone who does not embarrass you in public (and whom you, in turn, will not humiliate in front of others). You need to make certain that you respect him enough to come to him with your troubles rather than go to everyone else first. R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

7. Do you challenge each other?

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A key aspect of a rich relationship is challenge: do you learn from and teach each other? Do you support each other to go outside your relative comfort zones? Do you enable each other to grow together? Is your relationship one that provides mental, intellectual, and physical stimuli on an ongoing basis? This will ensure that you do not grow stagnant together.

6. Do you love the man or the idea?

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Far too often, we stay in relationships because we don’t want to be alone. Ask yourself, well and truly, is it the man that you’re in love with, or what he is to you? Forcing or justifying a relationship will only lead to heartache in the long run; ensure that your stability is based on genuine feelings for what’s important at the core.