If you’re in a long-term relationship, you know that with time that initial spark and fire can fade away. But the good news is that, with diligence and work, you can keep that spark alive. Here are fifteen tips for keeping the romance in your relationship fresh and passionate.
Laughing together not only creates endorphins, but also builds on that sense of camaraderie. Find time to go see a silly movie, or some stand-up comedy. Share jokes and video clips, things that will make you feel connected and give you a good rib-tickle. Laughing together will remind you of the things you have in common, which in turn is the perfect recipe for romance.
Taking the time to remember what that feeling of butterflies in stomach really felt like can help you to recapture it. Reminisce on your own then talk about it with your partner. Coming together to think about the “old days” will also bring to mind the romance, the spontaneity, and things that drew you together in the first place.
So what if you’ve heard the old stories fifteen times? Really putting the effort into listening to your partner makes him feel like you care, and increases feelings of intimacy between you. Make eye contact, clear your mind of distractions, and concentrate on what your partner is telling you rather than your grocery list. If your partner feels like they are the most important thing in your life, it will be difficult not to feel that spark again.
Flirting is a great way to make you and your partner feel desired and desirable. If you feel like things have stagnated, check to see if you’re still flirting with each other. If not, make an extra effort to bat those lashes, smile your “secret weapon” smile, and bust out the old moves. This can also help to remind you and your partner of the “old days” when you were first getting together and re-kindle the romantic spark you found in the beginning of your relationship.